Tragedy-of-Saint-Vianney: “survive to a bereavement, it is very personal”

Trag?die de Saint-Vianney: «survivre ? un deuil, c’est tr?s personnel»

MATANE — Michel Germain, who has lost his wife, his daughter, and his mother in a tragic accident that occurred there will soon be 20 years old, feels a lot of empathy for the people affected by the recent collision that killed a family in Saint-Vianney, in the Matapedia. A meeting was held, Monday evening at Amqui, between him and the community in which the wound is still alive.

On the 6th of January, a terrible accident has claimed the life of Anthony John and his two sons, Philippe and Gabriel. Just like him, who lost his only daughter, nine-year-old Nadine Pichette must now live with the absence of his only two children, who were 11 and 12 years old. There is no word to describe a parent who does more child. Although he claims that the losses do not compare and that every case is different, it remains that it understands very well what it is to live. “I remember,” he says.

“To survive a bereavement, it is very personal,” says the commentator of matches of hockey club the Oc?anic de Rimouski. “It is unique to each. We are all different by our cultural background, our spirituality, our faith, our education. There is no degree in the suffering. What happens to us is always the worst.”

Religion

Before being struck by the tragedy, Michel Germain believed in God. After, he became an atheist. “I know that when I raise the issue of religion, it may offend, is conscious of it. I have enormous respect for the people who have faith. But I think that we need to address the issue, because these are events that are too big for us.” In 2010, Mr. Germain has turned to buddhism. “I am comforted with this spiritual belief,” says one who is also a city councillor in Amqui. The fifty-year-old has found happiness. “I am very happy because I am focused on the present moment,” he says. This is the buddhism that is taught to me.”

If he can today say without hesitation that he recovered, the man of 57 years is, however, passed through a dark period. He thought twice of suicide so intense. “When I saw the three coffins in the living room, I thought that there was a place for me at the end,” he remembers. But when I looked at my father who had lost his wife and his granddaughter, I said to myself that I would not be able to do that to her, I, who am an only child. Life will always be stronger than death.”

After you have managed to pass through the various stages of grief, it is now resilient. However, he can never accept the death of his daughter, no more than the death of the two young boys that occurred in the accident of Saint-Vianney. According to him, no parent should outlive their child. “My father lost his mother when he was 75 years old,” says Mr Germain. “My great-grandmother was 93 years old. My daughter Jennely was 9 years old. There is an injustice somewhere!”

On December 15, 1998, Georgette Marino, age 60, was at the wheel of the car of his son, Michel Germain. The joint, Martine Fraser, 41 years old, and his daughter Jennely, 9 years old, were transient. The vehicle was stopped at an intersection, Mont-Joli when a distracted driver has pressed. The self has been projected against a semi-trailer truck. The three occupants died on the spot. It was around 18h20, on this day, while he was at the Coliseum of Quebec city, about to comment on a match between the Oc?anic to the Ramparts, Michel Germain had learned of the tragedy. “You come out of yourself,” he says. You say that it is a mistake. The denial ended when I had to go to the morgue to identify them.”

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